At 9 pm my mom told me not to go into labor, so of course, I did. Because I'm contrary-wise, I guess.
By 10:45 pm the midwife had arrived and I was in the birth tub.
At 12:50 am my water broke and I pushed out a baby by 12:55am, June 10.
The Baby Story
Every baby is a twinkle in God's eye before her parents ever think of her.
Last June, since we had only retirement, a new job, a damaged house, a move, a larger homeschool, triathlon training, new extra-curriculars and preparing the twins for college to occupy us, we realized it was the perfect time to be open to life, and in our Christmas letter we joyfully shared that, God willing, the newest May baby would be born at home in early June.
This pregnancy was about us being open to God's plan for us which became a running joke during the final months. Whenever the pain of my huge belly became overwhelming and I allowed myself to ask with a note of unhappiness, "Who thought this was a good idea?", Bill would mischievously say, "I thought we were being open to God's will?" to which I would respond, "Blah, blah, blah, I'm over that now."
When did labor begin? It's hard to say. If you are a clock-her-contractions-because-5-an-hour-means-labor person, I was never in labor. But, for a few weeks before Georgia was born, I was woken up in the night by stomach upset, shakes, hot flashes, and occasionally a contraction. That was pre-labor.
A few days before Georgia was born, the midwife came over and did my first cervical check, and I was at 5-6 cm dilated. Hooray! And that was it for the next few days. I might have a few hard contractions in the late afternoon, text the midwife to which she always responded, "I'm ready!", and then at bedtime, I would text again, "Everything stopped. I'm going to bed."
On Friday, the night of Game 4 of the NBA final, the twins were at work and the rest of us were excited to watch the game. At 9pm, I settled onto the birth ball in hope that it would help. As soon as the Star Spangled Banner was over my mom said, "OK, you can't go into labor now because it's time for basketball." Pretty much immediately I had a contraction where I felt like my bag of waters bulged out to my knees. I quietly got up and texted the midwife.
I thought it was going to be another false alarm but at the same time was really nervous about going to the bathroom, so she came over to check on me. Somehow, that made it all feel really real, so Bill and I bumbled through putting the car seat in the car and pulling out the birth tub. I remember telling him, "It's not too bad, don't worry about it yet" and him ignoring me, thank God, because by the time it was set up I was more than ready to get in.
There weren't many contractions really, I feel like about 10 total but can only remember having 4. When I climbed into the tub, my body immediately relaxed and the tightness in my lower body eased. I bopped around for a while and then had one memorable contraction. At some point I asked where Maria was and Bill went to get her. Later, I felt a pop high in my abdomen. Was this my water breaking? There was no instant relief from the release of pressure like usual, but we could see discharge in the tub water, so yes it was.
The next contraction was incredibly painful. On my hands and knees I gripped Bill's hands and pushed as hard as I could, but I knew it wasn't enough. I could feel that the head had not moved to the widest point which would allow the baby to slide out. As the contraction faded, I could feel the head begin to slide back up, so I quickly pushed just enough to hold it in place. I didn't want to lose any ground I had gained.
The next, the final contraction hurt worse than the one before. It wasn't the achy pain of the contraction that I felt, it was the sharp pain of the head stretching me that hurt so much. I pushed and clawed my way up Bill's arm and begged, "Help me, Jesus!" until I finally felt the widest point of the head push through, but there was no relief that I had come to expect. The baby's head was delivered, but the pain had not subsided. I moved backward into a sitting position and begged the midwife Mary Carol to deliver the baby. She says she used the techniques to deliver a baby with shoulder dystocia, but it was hardly necessary. With gentle manipulation on her part, the baby was finally delivered. And the pain continued.
As I asked, "What is it?", Mary Carol announced we had a girl, lifted her onto my arm, and despite the pain, I chose to tell our sweet new baby, "Oh, little one, I love you!"
Then I started to beg for Mary Carol to get the placenta out. And where was my mom?
Bill woke my mom and brought her in, Mary Carol gave me a shot of pitocin, and the enormous placenta was finally delivered.
As planned, Bill held Georgia while Mary Carol helped me move to the bed to make mananging a post partum hemorrhage easier. But there wasn't one. We were able to simply rest and recover.
"Rest and recover". That sounds so peaceful, but I'll be honest. The pain of uterine massage and the pain of having delivered a 10 lb 3 oz baby lasted a long time! I told Bill, "Let's never do this again."
But really, she's so worth it.
When all was quiet, Georgia was gently nursing at my breast, and we were all ready to wind down for bed, I asked if we could pray a rosary. I wish I had a picture of that moment. Each of us finding a rosary close at hand. My mom starting us with a prayer of gratitude for a safe birth. Mary Carol sitting at the foot of my bed, her well-used rosary in her hands. Bill leading us in prayer. That was a perfect moment where we all were able to pause together and appreciate God's plan and His goodness.
There weren't many contractions really, I feel like about 10 total but can only remember having 4. When I climbed into the tub, my body immediately relaxed and the tightness in my lower body eased. I bopped around for a while and then had one memorable contraction. At some point I asked where Maria was and Bill went to get her. Later, I felt a pop high in my abdomen. Was this my water breaking? There was no instant relief from the release of pressure like usual, but we could see discharge in the tub water, so yes it was.
The next contraction was incredibly painful. On my hands and knees I gripped Bill's hands and pushed as hard as I could, but I knew it wasn't enough. I could feel that the head had not moved to the widest point which would allow the baby to slide out. As the contraction faded, I could feel the head begin to slide back up, so I quickly pushed just enough to hold it in place. I didn't want to lose any ground I had gained.
The next, the final contraction hurt worse than the one before. It wasn't the achy pain of the contraction that I felt, it was the sharp pain of the head stretching me that hurt so much. I pushed and clawed my way up Bill's arm and begged, "Help me, Jesus!" until I finally felt the widest point of the head push through, but there was no relief that I had come to expect. The baby's head was delivered, but the pain had not subsided. I moved backward into a sitting position and begged the midwife Mary Carol to deliver the baby. She says she used the techniques to deliver a baby with shoulder dystocia, but it was hardly necessary. With gentle manipulation on her part, the baby was finally delivered. And the pain continued.
As I asked, "What is it?", Mary Carol announced we had a girl, lifted her onto my arm, and despite the pain, I chose to tell our sweet new baby, "Oh, little one, I love you!"
Bill woke my mom and brought her in, Mary Carol gave me a shot of pitocin, and the enormous placenta was finally delivered.
"Rest and recover". That sounds so peaceful, but I'll be honest. The pain of uterine massage and the pain of having delivered a 10 lb 3 oz baby lasted a long time! I told Bill, "Let's never do this again."
When all was quiet, Georgia was gently nursing at my breast, and we were all ready to wind down for bed, I asked if we could pray a rosary. I wish I had a picture of that moment. Each of us finding a rosary close at hand. My mom starting us with a prayer of gratitude for a safe birth. Mary Carol sitting at the foot of my bed, her well-used rosary in her hands. Bill leading us in prayer. That was a perfect moment where we all were able to pause together and appreciate God's plan and His goodness.
